What no one tells heart-led women about Success & Heartbreak

1 year ago I was stranded.

Empaths don’t have it easy in this Life (unless they do some serious inner work).

Only then, they can experience a Butterfly Effect.

A serendipitous moment that takes away all of their troubles, worries and anguish.

Scientists call a “butterfly effect” 2 apparently unrelated phenomena that happen in seemingly unrelated places, times or circumstances, yet they are somehow linked to each other.

This is how you create advancements in Life.

If you decide to live consciously and have awakened to your Soul’s Purpose, so many people, encounters and situations start to make sense only after you take notes of your Butterfly Effects.

My latest Butterfly Effect made it so clear to me how much of my creative energy could simply not be accessed while I was mourning a big emotional loss.

In other words, if you’re going through some personal or relational challenges (whether you’ve broken up already or you’re indecisive about it…) it’s going to be x10 times harder to show up like everybody else is doing.

If you’re not Heart-Happy, you can’t find, build or call in True Success.

Give yourself some slack if you’re not showing up in your work as you would like to.

It’s more than normal, but it’s not normalized in our go-getter culture.

Make it normal to you, dear Sensitive Soul!

If you can’t do what you would like to do, it means that your electrical inner circuit has already reached the maximum of its capacity.

Your task now is to process whatever heavy emotions you are experiencing inside your sacred relationship - or lack of thereof - and stop pushing it on the side or under the carpet.*

(*it will never truly go away if you don’t process it, sorry for the spoiler).

Then, one day, you’ll start seeing connections among the 2 wings of a butterfly.

For me that meant that last yeart I had a rough financial year in my business, but on the other side of the wing: my heart was broken after the end of a very important relationship and I couldn’t show up in my work with a clear, expansive energy.

1 year later, my effort to live in integrity with myself and not ignoring the feelings of my Heart, was rewarded with finding a new solid ground and a new beloved, but I had no clue that would have happened when I was in my down spiral.

I lost the home I had put so much effort in heartfully manifesting and carefully decorating.

I lost the Big Dreams of doing Life together with my former Beloved Soulmate (also, heartfully manifested).

Why success still feels empty when your heart is breaking

More than that, I lost 90% of my Vitality and Light, as I was mourning in grief, confusion and discouragement for nights at a time.

The nights became the days.

The days became weeks.

The weeks became months.

And the months became years.

When people asked me: so, how long did it take for you to recover from the heartbreak?

They ask me this question all the time, like if there was a sort of protocol to follow in how many days your tibia will grow back together after you fracture it.

The fracture of your Heart has no protocol like that.

Success still feels empty when your heart is breaking.

I was deeply injured, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically, too, (nothing related to violence, but my body became sick out of the overwhelming stress).

Yet “they” tell us to ignore the matters of the heart and just “move on”.

… How?? What are they talking about?

Relationships are bonds not easy to create and not easy to release. There’s so much mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually that goes into it.

All cultures and human Life on Earth - even animal Life and Tree Life - have sustained themselves through the millennia by relating to each other.

I could see how it was true for me that the more you love, the more you suffer.

The other half, my former beloved, for sure suffered a great loss, too.

But the feeling of suffering, feeling lost, feeling without a ground, putting every ounce of yourself up for discussion,

Navigating an existential crisis while losing sleep to the never ending tears of a deep emotional suffering that no one (not even you!!) could understand, that was tough.

So tough that I could do anything but surrender to it.

I am notorious for living my Life authentically, embracing challenges with courage and by riding the wings of my Dragon, but that totally unexpected and unwanted break up when I thought I had my Life in order… put me off for quite a while.

The consistency of showing up in my beloved biz? Not a priority. At all.

I made it look like it was to me. I strived to take my mind off of my deep heart-suffering with all the means I possibly knew: quantum healing, divine love transfusions, crystal massages, essential oils, EFT, balancing breaths, circular breathing, dance, deep walks in Nature, talking to a counselor, talking to friends, journaling the sh*t out of it… I even started painting my grief and pain on a daily basis. And the list goes on.

I’ve been a professional of Mind-Body well-being for 10 years.

I was asking myself: why can I not get out of this profound emotional suffering?!

With all the deep self-awareness and the great tools I have + direct channeled connection to Source?!

The hidden reason soulful women stay stuck in business & love

Of course I was regulating my nervous system. Of course I was eating well, nourishing myself healthy drinks and being off of alcohol for 8 years (or more?),

I was doing all the right things, and the pain was still there.

What I discovered through 2 years of deep inner suffering (for sometime I was still in my ex relationship, for some I was out if it),

Is that you can’t bypass it.

You honestly can’t ‘fake it til you make it’.

You can’t shorten up your suffering, but also: there is an end to it!

All the coaches in the world will tell you that “you are the creator of your own emotional reality!”, “You can create the emotions you want on purpose!”, “You can just distract your mind and put it towards something else”... Yes sure.

To a certain degree.

Not when you go through a break up at 36 ys old after already a lot of other “failed” romantic relationships under your belt - and with the biological clock ticking.

Not when the person you had to endure to leave behind is your soulmate of many lifetimes with a connection that you feel inside your bones, other than within your soul.

Not when what hurts the most is not the absence of his touch or physical presence, but the absence of his breath and feeling his spirit close to you.

I literally felt my Heart crushing like a crystal vase smashing on the floor

And the tears of that water

-that was in my heart shaped vase -

would never stop coming out.

Until I healed.

Until I realised that I made the right choice, in insight. For as hard as it could be.

Until I realized that I was able to rebuild my entire Life, romantic partnership, home, health, happiness, friends, and Dreams in only 10 months.

Oh God, how much I love my Life!

Oh God, thank you for initiating me into a whole new level of Love, Self-Love and Unconditional Love for all Humanity.

Oh God, thank you for providing for me a secure way out of the endless emotional suffering and putting my heart back together, like a big shining Light.

If you’re a deep feeler like me, there’s nothing that people can tell you to honestly take your suffering away and make you feel like “nothing happened” and “this too shall pass”.

Great advice for people who manage to not be put off by their emotions. However, that is a bit unreal and certainly unauthentic. People nowadays take pride on living disconnected from their heart, they bury themselves under piles of unnecessary work under the mask of being high achievers (which is actually just an addiction to adrenaline cause their nervous system was conditioned to not rest ever and to not ever feel safe).

I was born under a Pisces Sun. I’m hopelessly romantic and EMOTIONS are everything for me in Life.

Like, we all have emotions, but not all of us feel emotions.

Finally, my great Butterfly Effect was to see myself reborn as a Butterfly, over and over again in many iterations of my DreamLife (I only told you about one iteration so far) - and to witness one again the connection between the Success I feel in my personal Life and in my professional Life.

There’s no degree of separation. You are one, great person and your Inner Guidance moves holistically through you and all the areas of your Life.

If you feel bad or unexpanded in matters of the Heart, if will reflect back directly with strain and feeling constricted in your work or business.

Empath Entrepreneurs need to live happy in their hearts, truly happy.

It doesn’t mean they have to be in a relationship to be happy, but they have to feel at peace with where they are in their current relationship - or absence of. Their Joy and Heart-Happiness will make their Business Shine!

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I have never seen a person who had it the other way around. I had never heard the story of somebody who got all lit up and shined from the inside, from their heart, by making the money, and so then that reflected on being more loving in their personal relationships.

The path always starts from withing. Lovingness is an inner quality. There is where you start.

Success, as in recognition, usefulness or monetary reward, is an outer reflection.

It’s the second wing of your Butterfly, while the first one is how your Heart is feeling.

Truly and Deeply.

With all the magic - and practical - tools I have in my pocket, I was able to rebuild my Life in only 7 months… and I manifested a new beloved in only 6 weeks! That is a crazy record time that only happens when your Heart is truly aligned with your purpose and higher agenda.

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If you’ve read up until here, it means you resonated with my story of being heart-broken and feeling deep into all the emotional suffering. Let me share with you a Truth Message: emotional suffering is real, especially for empaths! It can give us physical symptoms. It is demonstrated how the biochemistry of feeling emotions in our bodies cal alter our nervous system, digestive and muscular functions.

Heartpain is true pain and you’re not being too lousy about that. But… always know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel! If you’re diligent about processing what is happening and if you seek out for help when you need to, I promise there is.

There always is.

You’re just one more cry away. Keep your focus on TRUSTING that what is happening is for your highest good only.

Love you

somebody gotta tell you today :0

Xx

-sara francesca

All illustrations showcased in this article are by the talented Iavnatalia. Thank you.

The Butterfly Effect: how to find Joy, Love, Purpose & your True Success